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November 2012

Asia, Destinations

New Friends in Amritsar

November 25, 2012 • By

Our last night in Amritsar, Jill and I were invited to a friend of a friend’s home for dinner. This was definitely one of the highlights of our trip. On a trip with new and exciting experiences daily that is saying a great deal. We met a couple, their grandfather, and two of their female friends in a private home near the central part of the city. Their home is filled with Oriental rugs, hand crafted furniture (from Spain), antique artwork and Indian charm. It was immaculate and if I didn’t know any better I could have been in a museum but pictures occupying the tables signaled this was indeed a home. The family is in the education business and we got the impression it was a very lucrative business while our gracious host said it has changed (and copied) in the last 20 years. Our new friends were very well educated and versed in several languages. The husband and one other guest were pilots for KingFisher air and another guest born and raised in Bangkok studied in Amritsar where her grandmother lived. She is a cake designer and interestingly enough will be taking a course in Chicago next year.

They dressed in modern clothes – jeans and sweaters and in their late 20’s – early 30’s seemed like any other person in the world of the same age. They are no longer religious but adhere to some of the customs and observances. One of the women is a Brahman (upper caste) Hindu but married a Muslim. Our host and her husband had an arranged marriage of sorts – she met him once and then he phoned a few months later and they were engaged and then married. The woman from Bangkok is still single at 29. That of course made me happy.

We discussed a great deal about Pakistan. They believe Osama Bin Laden was already dead and that is why we never saw a body (on the attack). The Indian theory is that we attacked his follower’s house and then took credit for his death but he had been dead a long time. Jill and I shared our 9/11 stories and how government works in the United States. I was fascinated by the Indian connection to Pakistan. Our host loves Pakistan and explained that in her opinion Indians and Pakistanis were the same. The partition of India and Pakistan by the British was based solely on religion. While we learned today that Pakistan is moving toward a completely Islamic state pushing out or even killing many of the remaining Hindus, it remains that Pakistan and India were once the same people. The husband expressed his concern that Indians and Sikh’s in general are mistaken as terrorists because they wear turbans and have dark skin. It made me a little sad that we as Americans don’t take the time to recognize the difference and immediately jump to negative thoughts. In a world where we are all faced with the threat of terrorism, these feelings are very real.

We dined on traditional Punjabi food that consisted of a spinach type of lasagna, chicken with peas and paneer(cottage cheese type of dish). It was all delicious food. Our hosts have a nearly two-year-old child who entertained us with his dance moves and beautiful smile. (By the way, they pay roughly $200 USD a month for a nanny). We thoroughly enjoyed our evening of great conversation and new friends.


Asia, Destinations

Varanasi the birthplace of Hinduism

November 25, 2012 • By

Welcome to the learning and burning city as it is known. It’s a cross between two worlds, a thriving city and an agricultural countryside where in the middle two rivers meet. Varanasi, a city of about 3 million people, is about 60 percent Hindu, 20 percent Muslim and a mix of everything else. Upon our arrival, our guide informed us that Indians need three things: 1.) A good horn, 2.) Good brakes and 3.) Good luck. I’m starting to think this is why everyone is so religious.

Varanasi is the silk capital of India, which means what? It means Jill and I went shopping again. This time we succumbed to the silk gods both purchasing a table runner that functions as a scarf and I tagged on a silk screen “picture” that will be eventually hanging over the headboard I do not currently own in the home I do not presently live in. Before we got suckered into shopping, we did get a presentation on silks and saree making. Each wedding dress takes six months to make and contains roughly 1/2 kilo of silver sometimes painted with gold polish. There are approximately 30-40,000 people who work in the looming business in Varanasi. While machines have replaced people, they have not replaced the craftsmanship and detail that go into the fabrics made by hand. It takes a worker eight hours just to make one meter of a saree. After our brief digression, we informed our guide we wished to see sights and did not want to visit more shops. This commission business is a big deal and I understand that shopping is important but bring on the religion.

Hinduism has four mothers: the Cow, the Ganga (The Ganges River), Mother (birth) and the Ground. At dusk, we watched an AMAZING ceremony called the Arti, where Sadhu’s (holy people similar to priests) and the local people paid homage to the Ganga from the Ghats(steps) leading to the River. A sadhu is a Hindu who has renounced caste, social position, money and authority. There were five Sadhus each situated on their own worship bed decorated with a conch, candelabra, marigolds, and a figurine of a god. Bells rung from above, a gong beat loudly and a drum intermixed somewhere in the madness. Thousands of people gathered at the river presenting offerings to the Ganga, while the Sandhus moved in a type of circle dance presenting their various gifts to the River. Locals and Jill floated marigold and candle pieces in the water as their personal offering. It’s said to give one the benefit of good Karma. There was smoke, fire, warmth, light, vision, belief, color and much symbolism in this performance. Local people attend this ceremony every night. It’s an energizing experience.

Each morning thousands of locals bathe in the Ganga River before visiting the temples or returning home to begin their day. The procession starts each day around 6:30 am. Local Hindus dunk themselves in the holy water of the Ganga. Women wade in the water fully dressed, while men fully immerse themselves in the water removing all clothing but their underwear. I saw one man even shampooing his hair. The men and women bathe in separate. areas. Young girls and boys bathed with their mothers and fathers respectfully. This is a very powerful practice for Hindus and considered one of the most important religious events one can do.

From our boat on the water, we also were able to see one of the largest cremation sights in India. It is said that people come to Varanasi to live and to die and that living in this city will give them rebirth. Hindus believe in cremation. Once a person dies, they must be cremated within 24 hours and then their ashes are scattered into the River Ganga. We could see the flame burning 50 feet high from our position on the water. Some tourists notice a distinct smell but I could only recognize the ashen Temple behind the crematory that was clearly burned/ashen from years of processions. Women are not allowed to participate so only male family and friends attend the ceremony. The bodies are carried on a type of ladder / stretcher from the home to the crematory.

We also had an opportunity to wander the narrow streets of old Varanasi, which are filled with makeshift temples, locals eating, old very rundown homes, cows, water buffalos and dogs. One buffalo parched near an alleyway saw me a mile away and starting trotting near me. It was a sign for me to get the heck out of the way. I just cannot comprehend how cows, buffaloes, dogs, cars, motorcycles, bikes and people all share the SAME streets.

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